- Joshua 24:15
Biblical Counseling for Today’s Christian Family
by Rev. Judith T. Lester, B.Min., M.Th.
Generally on Father’s Day, there’s a lot of criticism and negativity as men are reminded of what they are not doing. We express admiration and praise for mothers on Mother’s Day and then constantly grouse about the fathers on Father’s Day.
Though the statistics are grim and the media is inclined to paint a much different picture, not all fathers are negligent, uninvolved, derelict, irresponsible, thugs, pimps, and/or drug pushers. For some time, there has been an alarming trend toward the depreciation of fatherhood in our society; however, the title of absentee father is not representative of all men.
We cannot overlook the many godly fathers who are responsible, committed, loving dads who have chosen to serve the Lord. While these men are not perfect men (and what human is), when fathers choose to serve God, train their children to also serve the Lord, and accept their role as the spiritual leaders and providers for their families; they have chosen to do the right thing under the ever watchful eye of God.
That’s the message Joshua leaves for us in Joshua 24:15. Joshua told the people of God they had a choice. Regardless of whom the Israelites’ chose to serve, Joshua said when it came to him and his household; they had unequivocally chosen to serve the Lord.
On this Father’s Day, we salute all those choosy fathers who have chosen to serve God and who recognize that being a father is one of the greatest gifts God has given them.
Dads, as you accept your lifelong responsibility as a father to the precious gifts God has given you, the following are five (5) ways to strive to be an even greater dad.
According to the National Fatherhood Initiative (www.fatherhood.org) when dads take the time to love, laugh, look, listen, and leave an indelible legacy upon the hearts and minds of their children, they are being the dads their children need and want them to be:
1. Look at your children and call out their best. Be your kid’s biggest fan. Your children are waiting for you to call out their best. They are waiting for you to give them praise and affirmation. Call out what they did right in their choices and actions. Call out what you like best about them. Call out the fact that you love them deeply.
2. Love your children by touching them gently and speaking to them softly. There is nothing so powerful as a father’s touch. A soft and gentle touch – a hug, a kiss on the head – can make a child feel safe and secure.
3 Listen to what your children are saying and to what they are not saying. Spend time listening to your children talk about their day. Ask them questions and listen to what they are not saying. Listening will only take a few minutes, but the impact will last a lifetime.
4. Leave a legacy by giving your children a memory. Make a plan to do something simple but something that your children can always remember. Read the same story each night for a month, play a certain game each week, fix the same dinner, or breakfast every Saturday.
5. Laugh with your children. Allow your children to find the joy in life that comes with innocence. Then laugh with your children in these moments and find the deepest joy that is known in the heart of a parent.
Happy Father’s Day
Remember Choosy Fathers Always Choose God!
The writer does not assume responsibility in any way for readers’ efforts to apply or utilize information or recommendations made in these articles, as they may not be necessarily appropriate for every situation to which they may refer.
Rather, the objective is strictly informative and educational. If you would like to contact Rev. Lester, write to her c/o Fellowship of Love M.B.C. at P.O. Box 121, Brookfield, WI. 53008.