Brown, Daphne J.
Age 53 yrs. June 11, 2015. A Memorial service will be held on Tuesday, June 23 at 1PM at:
Northwest Funeral Chapel
O’Bee, Ford & Frazier
6630 W. Hampton Ave. (414)462-6020
Brown, Daphne J.
Age 53 yrs. June 11, 2015. A Memorial service will be held on Tuesday, June 23 at 1PM at:
Northwest Funeral Chapel
O’Bee, Ford & Frazier
6630 W. Hampton Ave. (414)462-6020
By James Michael Sama –Huff Post Women
I find often the perception insociety is that if you’re single, you’re unhappy — and if you’re in a relationship, you’re automatically happy. Given how many people live fulfilling single lives and how many people settle into the wrong relationships, this is not always actually the case.
Here are eight reasons it’s totally OK to be single.
1. It shows you don’t lower your standards.
Many people think that if you’re single, it means you can’t find someone. But in reality, it’s smarter to wait for the right person to come along than it is to settle for all of the wrong ones. Give yourself a pat on the back for committing to this and recognizing what you deserve.
2. It gives you time to learn about yourself.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. If that one isn’t healthy, none of your others will be. Often “serial monogamists” have a difficult time finding a long-term healthy relationship because their identity has always been tied to another person.
It is difficult to find a happy, healthy relationship if you have not taken the time to really define what that means to you. How will you recognize it when it comes along?
3. It gives you time to learn about other people.
Sometimes the easiest way to spot the right person is by searching through a crowd of the wrong ones. When you have the time and the freedom to date other people, you can prepare a mental checklist of what you do and don’t want in a partner.
No dating experience is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you wanted, it showed you what you don’t want.
4. You have less ex drama.
Negative relationships don’t always just… end. Sometimes you will stay in touch with someone you shouldn’t have even been with in the first place — or you carry emotional baggage into your next relationship from the bad experiences you had. This helps nobody. There is no use in settling into the wrong relationship, which could potentially sabotage what could have been the right one.
5. You can work on yourself.
I’ve already mentioned the importance of learning about yourself; you can also work on yourself. The harsh reality is that you could find the perfect person, but if they’re not interested in you, that will feel even worse.
Of course you should always improve yourself, single or not, but being single helps you focus on what will be best for you and allows you the freedom to fully commit to your goals. This way, when the person you want to be with comes along, you will be ready to receive them.
Hell, don’t just travel — move somewhere new if you want. Learning more about the world helps us learn more about ourselves. I understand (better than anyone) that family and other obligations can keep you from moving, and it’s not just about being in a relationship — but if you have the support from those around you, take a summer in Europe or move across the country.
These things will allow you to develop and discover — and you might just find your match during your journey.
7. You can discover your passions.
Want to try something new or out of the ordinary? When you’re single, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. Sure, when you’re in a healthy relationship, you can do these things together, too — but if you find a partner who doesn’t enjoy the same hobbies, you may feel limited.
The benefit to this is twofold: You can go out and do what you want, and you have a higher likelihood of finding someone who shares your interests. It’s a win/win!
8. You’ll never feel trapped.
I talk to a lot of people who feel as though they are in negative relationships, and unable to leave for one reason or another. This, in my opinion, is far worse than being single. Fight through the lonely times, love you for you, and you’ll never accept a situation you wouldn’t want to be in.
Someone who is worthy of your love will never put you in a situation where you feel you must sacrifice your dignity, your integrity, or your self-respect to be with them.
A great relationship will never hinder you or your individual life — it will enhance it. But it takes time to find that great relationship, and you should never feel bad about waiting for it.
You don’t “find” love; love finds you when you go out into the world and begin chasing after your passions. So start chasing.
By Paige Lavender. – The Huffington Post
South Carolina Gov. Nikki Haley (R) will call for the Confederate flag to be removed from the state capitol, multiple outlets reported Monday.
Haley is set to speak at a press conference at 4 p.m. ET Monday. According to CNN and AP, Sen. Lindsey Graham (R-S.C.) will join the governor and call for the flag to be placed in a museum.
Graham previously said the flag “is part of who we are,” but that he would be “fine” with taking the symbol down.
Debate over the flag was reignited after nine people were shot and killed during a prayer meeting at a historically black church in Charleston, South Carolina. When flags were lowered to half-staff in remembrance of those who were killed, the Confederate flag — which has flown next to the Confederate Soldier’s Monument since 2000, when it was removed from atop the South Carolina capitol dome — didn’t budge, because it’s held in place by a padlock. By law, the flag couldn’t be removed.
Several politicians have weighed in on the flag, with 2012 presidential rivals Mitt Romney (R) and President Barack Obama agreeing that the flag should come down. Some South Carolina politicians had a different take, with Rep. Mark Sanford (R-S.C.) saying removing the flag “should not be the immediate solution.”
by Justin ‘Jusdaremix’ Holmes –theGrio.com
Many of us call the black men in our lives kings, as a term of endearment, respect and encouragement, but with no extensive connection or education of black royalty here in the Western world, those words seem nothing more than platitudes. Usually the only view of black royalty comes from over 4000 years ago in Ancient Egypt & Nubia.
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By the Grio
New music from Janet Jackson? Yes, please.
The singer released a new single, “No Sleep,” Monday morning via Twitter. The post indicates the new song is dedicated to, in Janet’s words, “My Love.”
“You missing me, I’m missing you,” Jackson sings in the track’s chorus. “Whenever we meet, we ain’t gonna get no sleep.”
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By Princess Gabbara, BDO Daily Contributor –Blackdoctor
Could your birth month give some insight into your health? Maybe so, according to a new study published in the Journal of the American Medical Informatics Association.
PhD student Mary Boland from Columbia University Medical Center along with her team examined the data of 1.7 million patients who were treated at New York Presbyterian Hospital and Columbia University Medical Center from 1985 to 2013.
They wanted to see if being born in certain months increased the person’s risk of developing certain diseases later in life. Turns out that those born in May had the lowest risk while those born in October had the highest risk. Interesting, right?
Nicholas Tatonetti, PhD, an assistant professor of biomedical informatics at Columbia University Medical Center, had the following to say to Yahoo Health regarding the team’s findings:
“The most striking was a trend we found that those born in late winter or early spring were more likely to have heart disease. And we didn’t find just one type of heart disease associated with birth month, but we actually found several.”
Researchers also found that March babies had a higher risk of atrial fibrillation, heart failure and mitral valve disorder. On the other hand, July and October babies had a higher risk of asthma, while November babies were more likely to suffer from ADHD.
Furthermore, people who were born in spring had a higher risk of cardiovascular disease, while those born in fall had a higher risk of reproductive illnesses. Last but not least, those born in winter were more likely to develop reproductive diseases, but for whatever reason, it was not specified what the risk of being born in summer was.
Despite these findings, Tatonetti wants to assure everyone that there is no reason to panic if you and/or your child was born in March, July, October, November or any month for that matter as there is still additional research required.
“It’s important not to get overly nervous about these results because even though we found significant associations, the overall disease risk is not that great,” he said. “The risk related to birth month is relatively minor when compared to more influential variables like diet and exercise.”
By Sandria M. Washington –Blackdoctor.org
The Good Book says life and death is in the power of the tongue, but in J. Ivy’s book, the power is in the pen. Hailed as “Hip Hop’s Favorite Poet,” the Grammy Award-winning spoken word artist from Chicago didn’t fully begin to take the world by storm until he put pen to paper, pain to poetry and released the perfect storm of hurt, anger, confusion and misplaced love brewing in his spirit over the complicated relationship with his father. What began as a letter transformed into a critically-acclaimed poem,”Dear Father,” and his words have, literally, taken him all over the world. But, the greatest destination he’s seen yet (and don’t get it twisted – he’s been to some DOPE places) is a place called Forgiveness.
Now, with his recently released book Dear Father: Breaking the Cycle of Pain (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books/Beyond Words 2015), James Ivy Richardson II is telling the full story behind the letter that inspired a movement and challenging a million more people to “check themselves” and find their own joy to be free.
“It definitely saved my life because it just allowed me to see ME,” said J. Ivy, reflecting on the impact writing the poem “Dear Father” has had on him. “It allowed me to let go. It allowed me to focus. It allowed me to value myself; to see my worth, know my worth. Have confidence in myself. It allowed me to just be grateful for this life, for the life my father gave me and for the life God allowed, for the path He allowed. It just allowed so much.”
“And because of that, shortly after that moment is when I wrote ‘Never Let Me Down’ for Kanye’s project and I don’t think i would’ve been able to write that poem if I hadn’t written ‘Dear Father.” I KNOW I wouldn’t have been able to write that poem. But that poem, ‘Never Let Me Down,’ was the epitome of how I was feeling after breaking through ‘Dear Father.’”
Dear Father Letter Writing Campaign: “One millions letters written, one million hearts healed”
There’s a quote J. Ivy references throughout his book: “If you don’t deal with your emotions, one day your emotions are going to deal with you.” Writing a letter and opening himself up to forgiveness was the first – and most important – step in his healing, and he is on a mission to extend that same freedom to others. A million others, to be exact.
“By tapping into our creative expression, I believe we can find peace and forgiveness,” said J. Ivy. “Going on this journey helped me to face my issues, and the outcome has been a constant blessing.”
Many have called fatherlessness an epidemic, particularly in the Black community. More than 24 million children in the U.S., or 1 out of every 3, do not have a father physically in the home, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.
“The change in the community that we’re looking for,” says J. Ivy, “it starts with individuals. It starts with, ‘If I can get myself together, that means I can help get my household together. If I can get my household together, then I can help get my block together, my community, and my city, and my state.’”
Through the Dear Father Letter Writing Campaign, people can share their stories about their relationship with their own father. Whether the memories are good, bad or non-existant, the key is using creative expression to open up a discussion that’s been swept under the rug for far to long.
Write a letter, a poem, a song, make a video, draw a picture – just tell the story.
By Tyomi Morgan –Blackdoctor.org
The words we speak are powerful enough to move mankind to action or to disarm within the same breath, and when it comes to sex words have the same effect. It isn’t often that the average person thinks about how their words can influence his or her partner’s sex drive, but it is a factor that everyone should begin taking notice of.
Too often one partner is discouraged from entering into the sex he or she desires because of something that was said during or after an act, and although these words may not have been delivered with malice, the damage they cause can sometimes result in sexual dysfunction. Libido-killing phrases are used all too commonly, but they can be remedied with a little guidance on how to deliver the concern of the message minus its stinging undercurrent.
It’s time to speak life into your partner instead. Here are seven libido killing phrases and how to correct them.
1. “I’m use to dealing with men who are larger in size.”
This is one of the most damaging phrases to the male ego that I commonly hear from men who approach me with their confidence wounded. Women who hold high sexual expectations are known to be insensitive during times of sexual expression, but the weight of these words should be held into consideration. Sure, your current partner may not fit the mold of previous partners, but instead of making a comparison to men of the past (a big faux pas in relationships), suggest sex positions that can assist in making up for the lack of size that you expect. Rear entry positions such as doggie style provide deep penetration, as well as woman-on-top positions. Positions that place the legs close together provide a tighter fit and missionary positions provide more shallow entry. No man wants to be told he doesn’t match up to the last, so become solution-based instead.
2. “You smell funny down there.”
Poor hygiene is a major turn off during sexual activity, and while it is important to make your partner aware of improper practices, the delivery of the message makes all the difference. Sometimes smells are an indicator of a present infection that may require medication to clear up, and other times it’s a collection of bacteria that requires a simple wash. There are also occasions where a person’s natural body odor may not register as appealing to one’s senses. Whatever the case may be, it is important to approach this issue with caution and sensitivity. Once again, it’s time to be a problem solver. Offer to take a shower or a bath together as a form of foreplay to ensure proper hygiene practices are maintained, and if a smell persists after sexual activity, it may be time to see a physician…together.
3. “I see you forgot to shave today!”
Stripping bare “down there” is really a matter of preference, but when one is scrutinized for a lack of trimming it can drive libido to its lowest state. Instead of making negative references to one’s natural state, offer to shave your partner as a way to build intimacy. If shaving isn’t your partner’s preference, embrace them as they are and use erotic massage as way to stimulate pubic areas without coming face to face with them.
4. “Don’t get me pregnant!”
Unwanted pregnancy is always a concern during sexual activity, especially for the woman that isn’t using birth control and for the couple that isn’t actively using condoms as a first line of defense. Stating this concern with urgency can sometimes put pressure on men to perform in a particular way that may cause early ejaculation or a loss of erection. The common solution to this situation is to employ some form of birth control to create a worry-free experience.
5. “You were able to do more when you were smaller.”
Body image issues top the list of dysfunctions that create less than pleasurable sexual situations for individuals and couples. Placing a spotlight on weight gain is never a great way to encourage a partner to perform at their best, so to avoid bringing insecurities into the bedroom that can inhibit arousal, switch up positions and performance space to encourage equal participation. Outside of the bedroom, encourage your partner to get into shape by working out together and suggesting healthier meal prep.
6. “Do we have to do this right now?”
One partner may be turned on while the other is less than enthused about having sex, but being one to consistently deflect sexual advances can cause a relationship to become sexless altogether. As a way to make sex a priority in your relationship that creates a healthy sense of expression, set a time either weekly, bi-weekly or monthly (whatever you and your partner decide upon) to have erotic play time for at least an hour. Performing in this way will create an expectancy that won’t catch either partner off guard when sex is on the menu for the evening.
7. “You don’t satisfy me.”
It’s important to make a partner aware of dissatisfaction, but once again, the delivery of the message is what counts. Instead of delivering a message that can be damaging to the ego and self-esteem, work on finding solutions to the least satisfying parts of your sex life. Make suggestions of techniques that can be added to spice things up, suggest sex coaching, buy books that can be read together or watch adult films together. Always be aware of how your words can affect your partner.
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(MADISON) – In recognition of World Refugee Day on Saturday, June 20th, Governor Walker and the Wisconsin Department of Children and Families (DCF) would like to acknowledge the contributions, courage, and strength of those who are forced to leave their home countries due to violence, persecution or natural-disasters. On this day, we honor the human spirit that allows people to move to a foreign land in order to build a better life for themselves and their families.
“As we recognize World Refugee Day it is important to remember that the United States is a country with a long history of welcoming refugees from all over the world,” said Governor Scott Walker. “Today, refugees continue to add to the mix of cultures and experiences that make the U.S. special. We praise them for their many contributions and we thank the people throughout Wisconsin who have opened their hearts to help integrate these newcomers into their communities.” Over the past 36 years, Wisconsin has become a home for over 70,000 refugees. The Department of Children and Families manages the programs designed to connect refugees with the community and provide resources to help them achieve economic and social self-sufficiency in their new country.
Wisconsin’s former refugees have contributed to our communities economically, with over 90% reaching self-sufficiency. “Every refugee has a personal story to share about his or her struggles and victories,” said DCF Secretary Eloise Anderson. “They have become role models in their communities and have built a foundation for their families and future generations. Refugees have shared their culture and diversity, and are proof of the power of the human spirit.” The 2nd Annual Milwaukee World Refugee Day observance will take place from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. at Rainbow Park in West Allis, featuring a soccer match, music and dancing.
To learn more about World Refugee Day visit http://www.dcf.wisconsin.gov/refugee/day/default.htm.
As Milwaukee Police continue to investigate the shooting of a Wauwatosa Police officer on Milwaukee’s northwest side, I am hoping and praying for that officer’s quick and complete recovery from injuries suffered in the line of duty. My thoughts and support are with this officer’s family, and I know the community will rally around them to provide for their needs during this difficult time.
Events like this bring to sharp focus the risk to which officers expose themselves in the course of their daily duties. I am grateful for this officer’s bravery, as well as the commitment demonstrated by every police officer on our streets.