We all know that dating in 2022 is such a task now a days. Not saying dating was ever easy, but we know for sure typical morals and standards have reached an all time low. Asking a young person about their relationship can often times leave your jaw dropped.
You wouldn’t believe the things that have become a norm for them. Without going down the list of elements that make up shaky foundations, let’s touch on toxic relationships. Now, toxic relationships have ALWAYS existed. We can think of Ike and Tina as a good example of how toxic things can be. These kids can look at relationships like Chrisean and Blueface and see similarities.
Only problem is being toxic has become a true trend. This generation thinks it’s cute to be toxic—or funny. They think it’s normal to be abused whether mentally, physically, or emotionally. The media highlights toxic behavior like it’s okay. They even have names rapper Future “The Toxic King”.
But if we step into reality, we know that being toxic is NOT HEALTHY. It’s NOT OKAY. It’s NOT COOL. By definition toxic is very harmful or unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way. It’s dangerous. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally.
So far, I’m sure toxic relationships is something you can mentally understand. But to actually go through a toxic relationship yourself, these same words may hit a little different. Going through a toxic situation is not fun or easy. As easy as people make it seem it is to leave, it’s far from that.
Leaving a toxic situation is hard. It’s not often times a get up and leave situation. Many times you have to be cautious of how you decide to leave and when because you never know how bad things can get and you don’t want anyone to lose their lives.
While the biggest and best thing you can do for yourself is leave, you may need to be strategic. You also have to have your mind made up! If you know for a fact that you would like to be done with the situation, it’s time to plan.
Here’s a few steps to consider:
Build a Support System.
There’s a high chance that you’ve disconnected from many friends and family since you’ve gotten in this relationship. It’s time to reconnect. Surround yourself with people that love you and that you can count on. Let them know you’re serious about leaving. They may be able to assist in some way.
Stay Firm With Your Decision to Leave.
Know that you’re done. Don’t drag others into your equation if you know you’re just mad for the moment and you’re going to go back. Be done done!
Cut Off Contact.
Get rid of their number and yours if you have to. Loss of communication is key!
Unfollow Them on Social Media.
Disconnect in all areas. This lessens room for mind games and trigger happenings. Protect your peace and stay focused on the task at hand which is letting go!
Know That You Deserve Better.
You don’t deserve that type of foolery. Even if you grew up seeing it your whole life, you are worth so much more. Know that you’re strong for making the decision to leave and this is the best decision you’ve made in a long time. Put you first and KEEP you first!
Seek Professional Help From a Therapist.
Talk to a therapist about your issues and triggers. Let it out. Let them help you to understand your thought patterns and allow them to assist you in your healing! This takes time but is very necessary.
Keep a Journal of Your Emotions.
Know how you feel and why. Keeping a journal is not only therapeutic but it’s also evidence of your mindset. You may be able to pick up on patterns that you wouldn’t have been able to if you did not write it down.
Make a Detailed Plan.
Write your plan out in detail. See it. Make it realistic. Make sure it’s safe and execute. You deserve the best and you don’t deserve to live in a toxic environment. Make that plan and go!