In Season 2 of the popular VH1 original series “Single Ladies,” leading lady Raquel and her love interest interacted in a steamy love scene that, at the time, was the talk of social media. Open to new experiences and completely infatuated with the new man in her life, Raquel was presented with the idea of participating in tantric sex.
A bit apprehensive at first, Raquel finally agreed and was lead by her partner in a series of breathing exercises, eye contact and intimate touching that eventually led to a heated scene of lovemaking. For many watching the show, the concept of tantric sex was foreign, leading many to wonder exactly what tantra is in the first place.
For many who are members of the ‘conscious community,’ the word and its philosophy isn’t a new concept, but for the average religion-bound individual the world of tantra is unknown.
Tantra is a style of meditation and ritual credited to the Indian culture over 6,000 years ago, and its basis is rooted in connecting with the divine through the use of spiritual energy. In the case of tantric sex, sexual energy is used to not only come into complete unity with a beloved but to also draw closer to a higher power.
Tantric sex isn’t necessarily about reaching an orgasm. The goal is to experience more depth in sexuality and to enrich the whole sexual experience. Tantric sex, unlike traditional lovemaking, doesn’t have a beginning or an end and does not necessarily involve actual intercourse.
The entire tantric experience is a song and dance between both partners that involves extended foreplay built upon intimacy, meditation and unity. There is no particular goal in tantric sex. Instead, the focus is to enjoy exquisite unity during sexual expression. Tantric sex teaches couples how to extend their moments of sexual ecstasy to experience multiple orgasms in one sexual experience.
Imagine being able to feel those euphoric moments over and over in the period of 30 minutes. Tantric sex allows couples to become multi-orgasmic and to use sex as a form of manifestation to not only improve their relationship but each individual’s overall health.
So how does one go about participating in tantric sex? It’s more simple than you would think.
The practice involves intimate touching, synchronized breathing and giving each other permission to touch or engage with the other. The key is to hold off on engaging in intercourse for as long as you can. Set aside a special time for this activity, create an intimate atmosphere, dress comfortably yet provocatively to entice desire, practice erotic massage, take a bath together and wash each other lovingly, and practice sitting in each other’s presence by staring into each other’s eyes intimately with legs crossed facing each other. Think of tantric sex as extended foreplay. Be comfortable, welcome love and enjoy embracing your partner by allowing the sexual energy between you to peak before engaging in actual intercourse.