With Pat and Gina Neely announcing that they’re getting a divorce after 20 years together and Nick Cannon’s marriage to Mariah Carey on the rocks, it seems as though everyone is splitting up these days. Perhaps one of the scariest parts about filing for divorce is getting back into the dating game. Here are three things you can do to make that process a little less stressful and intimidating.
1. Be accountable.
No one likes admitting their faults, but in order to make your next relationship work, it’s important to reflect on why your marriage didn’t last. That means asking yourself the tough questions such as, “What role did I play in our divorce?” and “Is there anything more that I could’ve done?” It’s easy to blame your ex for everything that went wrong in the marriage, but being honest and owning up to your own mistakes shows maturity. Expect to shed a few tears during this one. Divorce is painful and it’s going to be an emotional roller coaster for the first few months, but over time, you can and will love again.
2. Take time to heal.
We hate to break it you, but rushing out the day after your divorce isn’t going to do you much good. Broken bones take about six weeks to heal. Broken hearts? Not so much. Take this time for you. Now, however long that takes is up to you. Just make sure you’re completely healed before you start dating again.
3. Take it slow.
After getting out of a marriage, it’s only natural to want to find someone new right off the bat, but that’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make. This is your chance to date around to compare what you like and what you don’t like until you find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Don’t expect that special someone to enter your life every time you leave the house. It may take weeks, months or even years, which is completely fine. Hey, chances are, you didn’t find your ex-wife or ex-husband overnight either, right?