Interacting with the opposite sex during celibacy can be a difficult thing, especially when faced with an undeniable sexual energy. However, refraining from sex while building a relationship with someone can create intimacy and a true understanding of who your love interest really is.
If you are looking for answers about how to interact with the opposite sex during celibacy, here are a few tips on how to make these encounters work!
Always meet in public places.
Meeting in public places will keep the date from moving towards soft body caresses and lip locking. Having to interact with your love interest in a public setting with a multitude of strangers will put your mind at ease from worrying about getting involved in something physical, and the scenery can add to your range of topics for conversation.
Keep conversations away from sex.
When engaging in conversations, try to stay clear of topics that will bring up the subject of sex. That includes complimenting your love interest on his or her erogenous body parts (booty, breasts, lips, chest, pelvic area). When sexual energy is strong between two people, it is easy to drift off into sexual talk. Always have a casual subject to revert to when you feel the conversation may be heading into a direction that you feel may have a negative influence on your celibacy commitment.
Avoid body to body contact.
Even though hugs are innocent, pressing your body against that of a person you’re already sexually aroused by isn’t such a great idea when trying to avoid sexual contact. Body language reads loud and clear, even when you aren’t saying a word. Try to avoid close bodily contact with your love interest without making the situation awkward because getting too close physically may send mixed signals.
Avoid alcoholic drinks while with the opposite sex.
Alcohol has a way of stirring up sexual arousal and causing people to act on ambitions that may have been pushed to the subconscious. Drinking can cause a person to become more vulnerable and less concerned with commitments, so remain in a sober mind while interacting with the opposite sex to maintain control of your actions.
Plan group activities.
Group activities will help avoid one on one time that could lead to intimate interaction. Plan group events with other friends that may be practicing the same vow of celibacy so you can help each other remain committed. Arrange shopping outings, city tours, group gaming events or any other types of activities that you can engage in with a group of people. Focusing on enjoying group company takes your mind off of engaging with your love interest intimately.
Talk to your love interest about your vow of celibacy.
Always be upfront and honest about your celibacy commitment with individuals you may be interested in. Discuss your boundaries openly in the beginning of any relationship interaction so that person knows where you stand and knows how to respect you. Helping your love interest understand your situation will cause less confusion later if he or she feels a strong sexual connection towards you.
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