Night after night, year after year, you go to bed with the same person again and again. Like it or not, it can get routine and downright boring after a while. So we’ve taken a few tips from the relationship experts (aka those who have been together for a long time) and asked them what they did to spice things up. Here are their answers:
1. Call and leave and sexy message
If you are somewhere quiet and where no one else can hear you, go old school and actually call your mate up and tell him or her exactly how much you want their body and you want them. Do some heavy breathing and put on your sexy voice. Don’t make it long. The less time the better (around 60 seconds is best) and end with, “I can’t wait to see you.” That will do two things: 1) probably surprise the hell out of your mate and 2.) get his or her’s juices flowing for you later on.
2. Have sexy anywhere BUT the bedroom
The bedroom can become boring. Step out of your comfort zone and get it popping in living room after watching a movie or in the kitchen (be careful if the stove is on, lol). But you get what I’m trying to say, be creative and do it somewhere else than the same bed, in the SAME position, like you ALWAYS do.
3. Read an erotic story in bed together
Reading an erotic story can help by allowing someone else to paint a steamy picture for you. Anybody can watch porn, but if you both take turns reading an erotic story then you can see how your partner starts to get into it. Go for the highly rated erotica stories, you can find them easily online.
4. Do a sex challenge
What’s a sex challenge you ask? Well, recently on the Steve Harvey talk show, a group of couples vowed to have sex every day for 90 days straight to see how that can change their love life and boy did it! One hundred percent of the couples said it changed for the better. The ladies felt wanted and sexier and the men felt more manly. They both benefited from the increased intimacy on ALL levels.
5. Say “yes” to everything for a week
I’ve seen this done successfully once where a person gave their mate a homemade coupon where they would say “yes” to whatever the person wanted that week, and they did it without complaint. It allowed the receiver to get what he/she wanted but also showed them that their mate is truly down for them. It definitely helps when the relationship might be strained due to disagreements.
6. Leave sexy hints
Talk to your mate about what turns him/her on and then leave little notes around the house so they can find memories or hints of those things. For example, I love lace, I think it’s really sexy, so then my wife would put lace panties around the house with a little note attached saying “I can’t want for you to take these off of me.” Wooo! That got me hot! Use your imagination.
Now, six tips is nice, but we want to keep the love going, so we added an extra three tips to give you:
7. Plan and create a lunchtime quickie (find a hotel nearby the job, book it and get it on!)
8. Do something adventurous (and not we’re not talking about just going to a new restaurant)
9. Be their fantasy massage therapist (everyone loves a great massage, so get some oil, set up the room like a massage office and rub that body down!)
All in all, these suggestions all incorporate one thing: communication. If you don’t communicate with your mate, nothing will work.