1. She knows what she wants and she goes for it.
Over the decades, the older woman has walked down a variety of paths and has figured out what’s most important to her in life. She’s achieved some dreams, set more goals and knows who she is well enough to decide what it is she wants and how she’s going to get it. Whether it’s in her career, travels or her hobbies, there’s nothing sexier than a woman who is ambitious and fearless. Plus — she might even make the first move.
Despite the stereotype that everyone making a change in middle age is simply having a “midlife crisis,” surveys have shown that many people in their 40s and 50s are pursuing their dreams because they want to do something more meaningful. A 2014 survey by Life Reimagined found that over 80 percent of midlifers want to pursue their dreams and give back more in the next decade. Three-quarters said they want to make their lives more meaningful.
2. She’s confident in herself and who she is.
Jane Fonda once said, “It’s impossible to be truly intimate with someone if you don’t like yourself.” We couldn’t agree more. While many of us still have our body hangups, at a certain age you come to appreciate your body for more than just its stretch-mark-free aesthetic appeal. In one poll, women even said they felt happiest with their bodies after 49.
3. She knows what she wants in bed — and she’s not afraid to talk about it.
4. She has life experience.
According to a study released earlier this year, men in their 20s prefer to date older women. “Young men nowadays probably also recognize that older women are adept at diligently juggling so many responsibilities (career, children, housekeeping, fitness, finances, socializing), which makes them intriguing and attractive and a more secure option,” psychologist Sam Owen told YourTango.
5. She’s independent.
Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows the importance of not losing yourself in the other person. Instead, it’s better to love each other while giving each other the room to grow and flourish.