By Tyomi Morgan -blackdoctor.org
Why do men cheat? It is an age old question that has been the inspiring catalyst for many published books and articles around the world, and now social media commentary. In a recent exclusive interview with CNikky, Tina Campbell of the gospel duo turned reality-TV stars Mary Mary believes her dominating ways and making her husband “feel small” compared to the demands of their family and her career contributed greatly to her husband’s infidelity.
“I, Tina, assume full responsibility for the issues that I contributed to the relationship,” she said. “I was controlling, talked too much. And you can never be heard over me because when I want to talk I got the floor and ain’t nobody gonna get it from me until I give it up.” According to Tina, “That was the way it was and I have to work on myself. You know I mean? I was selfish.”
Both parties in a relationship must own up to personal responsibility and just like each situation is different, there are a plethora of reasons why men choose to step outside of their relationships to pursue someone else. Here are five of the top reasons why men cheat.
The opportunity presented itself.
When a man is offered a good thing, it’s hard for him to turn it down, especially when it comes packaged as hot, unrestricted sex on a platter. Men often use the excuse of “I’m a man and it’s just how we are” to cover up for situations such as these, but they are somewhat validated in this statement. By nature, men are meant to spread their seed to populate the earth, and their sexual desires to seek and destroy can sometimes get the best of them. So when there is a fine woman giving him all the signals that she is ready to get down and dirty, chances are he might just take her up on the opportunity if he simply cannot hold back his urges.
His sex life within the relationship is horrible.
An inadequate sex life is one of the top reasons for why men cheat. It may seem like such a small thing to betray one’s trust over, but sexual interaction is the base of any romantic relationship. When his needs aren’t being met and he has expressed his dissatisfaction, a man who has had enough (or isn’t getting enough) will begin to have those desires to seek and find another woman who can do the job for him. Sure, self pleasuring is always an option, but when there are 10 women to every 1 man why have sex alone when there is a plethora of options just waiting to be explored? At least, that is the thinking of a man that is fed up and horny looking for a solution to his problem.