It could be described as the most expensive basement party ever, and it included Anna Wintour, A$AP Rocky passing around blunts, the entire Kardashian family, Lamar Odom’s debut appearance after his hospitalization, Naomi Campbell and an exclusive Adidas collection. Yes, we’re talking about Yeezy Season 3 and we were there to watch it all go down — standing right behind Kanye West.
On Thursday, West debuted his eighth studio album, “The Life of Pablo,” before a frenetic crowd at Madison Square Garden and 20 million viewers watching a live stream.
Say what you want about West, but when he releases music, he has our undivided attention. The long-awaited debut of “TLOP” doubled as the launch of West’s third collaboration with Adidas, making for a mind-blowing marriage of music, fashion and celebrity.
Kanye was a DJ/God who guided us through the journey that was Yeezy Season 3:
Watching Kanye slip an aux cord into a laptop and play tunes from what he touted as the “greatest album of all time,” is definitely a surreal experience to say the least. Equally surreal is watching Kylie Jenner’s boyfriend Tyga subtly bop his head to the music while smoking one of the many blunts that was passed around. And only at YS3 would one overhear a harried MSG employee shout, “Lil’ Kim needs napkins or tissues … any kind!”
All of this is fitting since fame and celebrity were a major theme throughout the event and West’s newest album, which includes a track titled “Famous.” Despite all this, the show itself managed to feel extremely personal. Many of the the close to 1,200 models even shed tears as they stood in West’s designs, perhaps moved by the breathtaking grandiosity of the presentation that managed to relay a strange sense of intimacy.
Every year, millions of tourists and Brazilians alike gather for Rio de Janeiro’s Carnival. During the carnival, Brazil’s biggest television network, Globo, selects the Globeleza carnival queen, who then becomes the star of the entire carnival.
Nayara Justino was chosen to be the queen in 2013, voted in by the public, but inexplicably, she was dethroned and replaced by a woman with much lighter skin.
Now, Justino is speaking out in a new documentary about her experience with racism after she was declared the next Globeleza queen.
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Washington, DC — If all goes well, the Obama Administration’s plan to make community college free for select students will go live in the year 2017. The program, also known as America’s College Promise (ACP), will allow eligible community college students to work toward the first half of either their bachelor’s or associate’s degree at no cost.”
Supporting two years of free community college for responsible students through a $60.8 billion mandatory investment in ACP over the next ten years, this proposal will also provide low-income students who attend Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs) and Minority Serving Institutions (MSIs) with up to two free years of college or
significantly reduced tuition.
The program is a part of a $4.1 trillion 2017 fiscal year budget, and Obama says his budget plan is especially for those in low-income families. Within that budget is also $69.4 billion in discretionary funding for the Department of Education, which will help all children to have access to high-quality preschool education.
According to President Obama, by 2020, two-thirds of jobs will require some education beyond the high school level. So his proposal and budget also aims to strengthen Pell Grants, which allow college students to take summer classes, and provide scholarships for select inmates in prison so they too can quailify for jobs when released.
The proposal also includes an additional $300 “On-Track Pell Bonus” for students who stay on course to graduate on time by taking approximately 15 credit hours per semester, and a “Second Chance Pell” proposal for prisoners who have served their time and near reentry into society.
What about Black colleges?
The budget would also allocate $30 million for Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs) and Minority Serving Institutions (MSI) to help create competitive and innovative strategies for student success, with the hope of increasing the rate of graduation among low-income students and students of color.
Education Secretary John B. King Jr., comments, “The President’s budget reflects the Administration’s broader efforts to expand opportunity and ensure every child can achieve his or her full potential. We have made tremendous progress with record high school graduation rates and more students of color going to college, but we have further to go to ensure that educational excellence is a reality for all students. This budget builds on the Administration’s continued efforts to invest in education, from high-quality early learning through college.”
For more details about the proposal, visit www.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2015/01/09/fact-sheet-white-house-unveils-america-s-college-promise-proposal-tuitio
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So, you’ve been dating awhile and you’re getting that itch. You’re thinking that he may propose any time now, but he hasn’t. But you’re going to give him time, right? Well, how much time? It’s important to know because he may not even propose at all. Yeah, I said it. How do I know? Because I was that guy.
I was the serial monogamous type of guy. I met ALL of my past women’s mothers and families–even my side pieces, because I was able to transform into the guy that they wanted. But I ended up letting them all go and married only one.
So now, I just go around the country trying to share with women what they could be doing wrong and what their men is REALLY thinking. No Steve Harvey stuff. No relationship guru. Just a man who has loved, and broken more than his fair share of hearts and now trying to use his powers for good.
Here’s how to tell that he will NEVER marry you, but this list is a little different than other lists you see. This list is what you do as women that make him rethink popping the question. Ok, here goes:
1. You let him do anything – As a man, if we know we can get away with it, we will try it. And then try to push the envelope to try it again. It’s really up to the woman to put some parameters, not constraints. No real man likes to be told what he can or cannot do, but offering it up in a way that says something like “if you do this, I don’t know if I can be with you” or “if you do that, I may have to do it too” is more of a pill a man can take. If you let him do anything you’re going to be his “anything” girl, and not his wife.
You can trust a man and give him parameters. As long as he shares with you what he did or is doing, you don’t have to blow his phone up while he’s gone to “check on him”. Just watch, if you act like you have a life too outside of checking up on him, most men will make it their duty to check in with his woman on his own.
2. You put too much emphasis on social media – Women, listen to me when I tell you this…who gives a flying fart that he “liked” a pic on Instagram of some big booty girl? Nine times out of 10, he probably likes big booties — and there is nothing wrong with that. But then when you start nit-picking over every little thing he does on social media and you’re not even his wife, the countdown to putting you in the “She’s Always Tripping” box has already started.
Let’s be real, if you’re snooping around his social media and emails, you have bigger fish to fry. Are you snooping because he did something previously? Or are you snooping because some other man did something before him and you want to make sure he doesn’t do it too? Newsflash Ladies: He’s NOT the other guy! If this is a guy you really want to spend the rest of your life with, what is your point in checking him telling him to delete this person or that person? If he wants to be with you, he will do it himself. Nagging him will push him to keep in contact with those people just to spite you. It’s stupid, I know, but men can be petty sometimes too.
Moral of the story: pick your battles so you can win the war.
3. You automatically assume the negative – (*sigh*) This goes on with TOO many women I talk to. We all make assumptions from time to time, but why does it always have to be bad when you think of him? When something happens you automatically assume the worse and let it be known to him about “what he did” before he can even say a word. Try something different for a change, assume the positive. Think of good things that he could be doing when he’s not with you. Assume the beauty in him instead of the dark side. Then voice those good assumptions to him. Only two things will happen when you do:
1. He will be pleasantly surprised and begin to actually do those things you mentioned…
2. He will step aside and let another man in because he really has been doing bad stuff and will think you’re too much of a good girl for him.
4. You don’t apologize – Wooooo! This one is hard for a lot of women and men. Listen, we all aren’t right 100% of the time, if you are wrong and get found out that you are wrong but don’t even offer up a sincere apology for it, he’s wondering if this is the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. A simple apology lets a man know that (1) you are human. No man wants a know-it-all woman, especially one who puts it in his face that she knows it all. And (2) shows that you care enough about him and his feelings to be the bigger person and admit your wrongs. Offer him a kiss, cook him a dinner…something to let him know you are sorry along with your apology. It goes a long way–trust me.
5. You don’t recognize his effort – Ladies, ladies, ladies…a real man will make an effort for you, in more ways than one. He will make an effort financially, socially, and even spiritually if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. But if those small efforts aren’t even recognized, he’s thinking in the back of his head, why am I even putting in effort if I won’t get anything in return?
You know your man, right? Find a way to celebrate him, not just on father’s day, NOT just on his birthday, but just some random day to celebrate HIM. If he’s truly a great guy like you think he is, don’t lose him just because of your stubbornness to always make it about you. If he’s making an effort in a certain area, tell him, show him that you appreciate him. I don’t want to tell you how many times, MARRIED MEN who cheat express that their main reason is that the woman doesn’t appreciate him anymore. Don’t just think about you, think of both of you.
Well, this is just part one. There’s more truth to this than you know. After all is said and done and you gave it your all, then maybe that guy isn’t the one for you anyway. Just be the best woman you can be and “the one” will find you.
Have you ever done anything with all of your heart? Marriage, job, friendships? How about your relationship with God? God says He will be found if we search for Him with all of our hearts.
By Arionne Nettles –Blackdoctor.org
Even with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, there’s no need to skimp on the planning. Relationship expert Yanni Brown of Making Love Better shares her take on how to create a day that’s special for you and your partner.
A Date Planned for Her
If you’re planning a date for your wife or girlfriend, the most important thing is being in tune with what she likes. Brown says that it’s a woman’s dream to have her significant other give her what she’s mentioned in casual conversation.
“It’s not really hard to do,” Brown adds. “It’s just observing what she likes and then doing it.”
If you’re not sure, it doesn’t hurt to ask. Brown says to just ask her what three things you can do to make Valentine’s Day special for her. Then, do at least one of those, and if you can do all three, you’ll likely get a few more brownie points.
Don’t forget to set the scene when planning the night. Google ambiance, tables settings, or even go on Pinterest. Then, grab candles and massage oils — for example, Brown’s “His, Hers & Ours” massage candles — to add in physical touch.
“Pull it up and just copy that idea, but be thoughtful of what she wants — not just what you see in the picture,” Brown says.
A Date Planned for Him
Brown says that planning a date for male partners might require a slightly different strategy.
“Men are a little bit different — they don’t really get into the day sometimes — but stroke his ego,” Brown says. “It’s about celebrating him.”
To do that, you may need to ditch some of the more stereotypical Valentine’s Day activities and incorporate the things he loves.
“If he wants to go to a basketball game, go all out with tickets and then have a dessert waiting at home,” Brown says.
After a day or evening out, Brown suggests that you end the evening with lingerie.
“Women are emotional, but men are visual, so you want to make it more about the visual for him,” Brown says. “You’re talking to him in his love language, so it’s a win-win for everyone.”
Dates for New Couples and Celibate Couples
Although new couples and those practicing celibacy aren’t ready for more intimate moments, they can still incorporate romance. Create the perfect movie night.
“We all like movies, but you don’t have to have it late at night so you won’t be enticed,” Brown says.
Make a date to meet in the afternoon or early evening, instead of late at night. Create an actual movie ticket to give your date as an invitation, and don’t forget to lay out all of the snacks you both like.
If you’re a brand new couple, you can use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to learn together. Consider something new that neither of you may have done before, like ice skating or taking a dance class.
“I’m big on things that teach you how to be in a relationship,” Brown says. “And a dance class is perfect.”
Sunday morning after church service, Deacon Johnson was on his way out and getting ready to watch the Washington Redskins football game. He bumped into Miss Watson and warmly asked her, “How are you feeling this fine Sunday morning?” Miss Watson had recently suffered terrible losses, because she unexpectedly lost her job and her mother died two weeks ago. Miss Watson forced a half-smile, lifted her shoulders back, and responded “I’m too blessed to be stressed!” Although Deacon Johnson nodded in approval, he did not fully believe Miss Watson’s response. Overhearing this conversation transformed my professional career.
“I’m too blessed to be stressed.”
“I’m too blessed to be stressed” is repeated by people of faith like a badge of honor. The reality is that we are all stressed. We work long hours, battle traffic, and try hard to find that special soul mate. We raise children, care for aging parents, and worry how to pay our bills on time. If stressful situations continue, a person is at a higher risk of suffering from major depression. In fact, major depression is now the no. 1 cause of disability in the world.
As an African American, Christian, psychiatrist on faculty at Columbia University Medical Center, I know that churches are often the first place people go when struggling emotionally. Studies show that more people first seek help from a pastor during an emotional crisis than any other health professional. Pastors provide counseling and can make referrals to mental health specialists. Unfortunately, stigma and the fear of mental illness causes people in the church to suffer in silence instead of seeking treatment. Distrust of mental health professionals is especially strong in communities of color, as African Americans and Latinos have the lowest rates of depression treatment in the United States.
Imagine that we could create church environments where people felt safe to acknowledge their struggles with stress, depression, or substance use – instead of insisting that we are “too blessed to be stressed” – we could encourage people to seek care when it is needed.
A recent study that I published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine showed how three churches in New York City identified people at risk for depression. In the study, 122 people completed an anonymous survey. The survey asked 9 questions about whether a person experienced sad or depressed mood, inability to enjoy pleasurable activities, difficulty falling asleep, feelings of guilt or worthlessness, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, appetite changes, and thoughts of death / suicide in the previous two weeks. The survey was scored from 0 (no symptoms) to 27 (severe symptoms). People who scored 10 or higher on the survey were classified as having a “positive depression screen.”
Our results showed that people who attend church are stressed. We found that 1 out of 5 people had a positive depression screen, which is double the rate found in community samples. Importantly, we found that more men (22.5%) screened positive compared to women (17.7%). Our ability to identify a high percentage of depressed men suggests that churches are important entry points for engaging men in mental health treatment.
Faith communities are at a crossroads, and a movement is growing to create caring congregations in every church in the U.S. Rick and Kay Warren recently hosted a conference titled “The Gathering on Mental Health and the Church .”Over 3,000 people attended this conference in which faith leaders, policy leaders, scientists, and mental health professionals disseminated information and resources.
Building on this conference, I believe that caring congregations respond to their parishioners with the following messages:
1. Depression is a common, disabling illness for which there is effective treatment
2. Depression is not due to weakness, sin, or lack of faith
3. Coping strategies to reduce stress include faith practices (i.e., prayer), regular exercise, a healthy diet, talk therapy, and medications as needed.
What can you do next? If you are suffering from stress and depression, visit www.nami.org or www.psychologytoday.com for resources and providers in your area. As community members, you can speak with your church leaders or employer about the importance of promoting mental health. Pastors can speak about mental health from the pulpit and have workshops at your church. I would love to hear your other thoughts and suggestions!
If you — or someone you know — need help, please call 1-800-273-8255 for theNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline. If you are outside of the U.S., please visit the International Association for Suicide Prevention for a database of international resources.