We’ve all heard the saying, “if it’s not broke, don’t fix it.” But if your husband applies that old adage to his bedroom moves, your sex life could go from hot to ho-hum. “When men keep doing the same moves over and over again, sex becomes routine and no longer exciting,” says sex expert Nikki Ransom-Alfred. “Not to mention that a woman’s body will become desensitized to a man’s moves if he repeats them too often.”
So if your husband’s go-to sex moves could, err, put you to sleep, it’s time for a talk.
First, be sure to begin any conversation with honest affirmation. “Tell your husband that you love having sex with him, but you would like to incorporate some hot moves to take it up a notch,” suggests Ransom-Alfred. Ask him to name a few sexual things he’d like to try between the sheets, and be open to his suggestions. “Then when it’s your turn, you can tell him things you’d like him to do to you in the bedroom. This way, it just looks like you’re the sex goddess wife and not belittling his sexual skills.”
You can also take matters into your own hands mid-action. “During sex, don’t be afraid to ask him for what you want,” Ransom-Alfred says. “Many men find it a huge turn on for their wife to talk dirty and ask him to do naughty things to her body.” Not sure where to start? A simple “I want you to …” whispered in his ear is sure to inspire some new sex moves.