Changing the world may be cliche,But what we are trying to do is blow allThe hate away. We are young, black, white, andMixed, doing things to help our fellow kids.Our goal is to decrease the amountOf homeless youth, by helping themGet jobs and stay in school, just thinkThis problem could change if youHelped too. We may be young and thatDoesn’t last forever, but we are here to stay. . .Just call us STEP TOGETHER!– Katera Boss a junior from Tamarack Waldorf High School
Earlier this week, actor Matt McGorry gave a shout out to Michelle Alexander’s powerful book on mass incarceration, The New Jim Crow. “I’m embarrassed that I didn’t come across the information in this book sooner,” McGorry wrote on Facebook. “But that’s white privilege for ya… Burning crosses and racial slurs are not the only types of racism affecting people of color. And we owe it to our black and brown brothers and sisters to understand this.”
The “Orange is the New Black” star’s post has gained him plenty of praise for actively trying to educate himself on issues regarding race, but it also serves as a powerful example to other white people and allies on how, sometimes, one of the best ways to better understand racism is to just pick up a book.
In the spirit of this, we’ve compiled a list of books that every white person and ally should read right now, and have included some of each book’s most powerful passages:
For list of books click here.
Rahel Gebreyes -Huff Post Black Voices
Ebony’s November cover, which depicts a shattered image of the iconic Huxtable family from “The Cosby Show,” unleashed a wave of controversy when it debuted earlier this month. While some applauded Ebony for taking a brave stance on tackling the rape allegations against Bill Cosby and its impact on the show’s legacy, Malcolm-Jamal Warner is not among those outspoken supporters.
Warner, who stopped by HuffPost Live on Tuesday to discuss his new album “Selfless,” said he was disappointed by the provocative cover. The actor said he was sad to see Ebony, “one of the voices of the black community,” take down the esteemed Huxtable clan.
“[The cover is] contributing to the stereotypical image that society has of the broken black family and the shattered black family,” Warner told host Caroline Modarressy-Tehrani. “And to take something that … for 20 [or] 30 years has been what we have held up as the black family that we all want to aspire to, in terms of the love that we don’t see when we see black families in the media — to take that image and to shatter it, it’s disappointing to a lot of us.”
Brennan Williams -Huff Post Black Voices
During last month’s annual Emmy Awards, Viola Davis leveraged her historic win for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series to address television’s ongoing issues surrounding diversity.
Although Davis’ acceptance speech received high praise, Whoopi Goldberg recently told BET.com that she is unclear about the speech’s oft-quoted line, “The only thing that separates women of color from anybody else is opportunity.”
“I’m not sure what it means. Opportunity to do what?,” Goldberg said. “The truth of the matter is there’s been plenty of opportunity. I mean, ‘Scandal.’ Let’s just start with that. Kerry Washington is there and she’s working her booty off, okay? But they didn’t vote for her.“
“The View” co-host added that she thinks recognition from the voting committees is the thing that’s missing, not opportunities.
“Maybe the question is, ‘What do you have to do to get voted on? That’s the thing,” she continued. “It’s not that the opportunity isn’t there, because we’ve had lots of opportunities. But if you don’t get the pat on the back that says, ‘Yes it’s okay to hire these women.’ See now there will be more parts, more dramas, because Viola won the Emmy award. So they’ll hire more black women.”
Brennan Williams -Huff Post Black Voices
“Nobody said that, in this day and age,” Winfrey said in disbelief to TMZ after being informed of T.I.’s comments. “Well, you know what I say to that… I want to say, ‘Honey child, hush your mouth. You don’t know what you’re talking about.’ That’s what I would say… I don’t buy it, you know, it’s not true. I think people just like to talk.”
While the rapper has since issued an apology for his “unequivocally insensitive and wrong” statement, his wife, Tiny, also added her two cents on the matter. As she was leaving Los Angeles International Airport on Tuesday, Tiny told TMZ that her husband’s comments were distasteful and that he can “sometimes” come off a bit sexist.
“He just lives in the old ‘man takes care of woman,’ chivalry-type-thing,” she said before later adding. “He might’ve been thinking about me at the time.”
By: Sara G. Miller
Published: 10/05/2015 on LiveScience -Huff Post Women
Is that guy sexy? Is that woman beautiful? If you ask these questions to a group of people, they may have different answers, and a new study hints at why: Your perception of other people’s attractiveness is mainly the result of your own experiences.
In the study of twins, researchers found that a person’s environment plays a bigger role than genes in shaping whom they find attractive.
The idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder has been around for a long time, said Laura Germine, a psychiatric researcher at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston and lead author of the new study. But the scientific study of this idea has been limited, she said. [Seeing Double: 8 Fascinating Facts About Twins]
Most research on perceptions of attractiveness has focused on finding which characteristics people generally find attractive in others’ faces, Germine told Live Science. For example, researchers have found that faces that are more symmetrical are generally more attractive, she said.
In the new study, published on Oct. 1 in the journal Current Biology, the researchers looked at 547 sets of identical twins (who have identical DNA) and 214 sets of fraternal twins (who share half their DNA) in the Australian Twin Registry. The participants looked at 98 male faces and 102 female faces, and gave them a rating based on how attractive they thought the faces were. The researchers then used these ratings to come up with what they called “individual preference scores,” which were a measure of how much each participant’s ratings differed from the ratings of the average of all people in the study, according to the study.
In the first part of the study, the researchers found that if they selected two participants at random, the participants agreed on the attractiveness of a face 48 percent of the time on average, and disagreed 52 percent of the time.
That’s consistent with a previous study that found that, on the one hand, fashion models can “make a fortune with their good looks” but friends can still “endlessly debate about who is attractive and who is not,” the researchers wrote in the study, quoting an earlier study of the topic.
Next, the researchers set out to determine whether genes or the environment was a bigger influence on how people perceived attractiveness. In other words, they wanted to figure out what accounted for the 52 percent disagreement rate they saw in the first part of the study.
For each twin pair, the researchers compared the preferences of one twin to those of the other, to determine how similar they were. Then, they compared the similarity of all of the identical twins’ preferences to those of the fraternal twins, Germine said.
If the identical twin pairs had preferences that were more similar than those of the fraternal twin pairs, it would suggest that genes play a bigger role, Germine said. But if the identical twins’ preferences were not more similar to each other, it would suggest the environment plays a larger role, she said.
The researchers used standard calculations, that are often used in twin studies, to figure out the relative influence of the participants’ genetics and their environments on their ratings of people’s attractiveness. They concluded that people’s individual environments accounted for most (78 percent) of the differences in how people perceived attractiveness.
And even for each twin in a pair, a person’s individual environment is unique, the researchers said.
For example, even though twins share a lot of their environment because they usually grow up together in the same house, their individual environments — including their friends, what they see in the media and their first relationship — differ enough to give each twin an individual perception of attractiveness, Germine said. Previous research has shown that if people see a face and associate it with something positive, they tend to find that face more attractive, she added.
The researchers noted that shared environments (as opposed to individual environments) may still play a role in influencing people’s preferences, but for this study, the population included was not very diverse.
Lisa Copeland –Huff Post 50
What exactly is a dating Deal Breaker? These are the qualities a man either has or comes with that you can’t tolerate in your life. Or conversely, they are qualities a man MUST HAVE in order to date you, such as the same religion or culture.
Men also have Deal Breakers when it comes to dating you. But the difference between the sexes is men honor their Deal Breakers. You’ll see this when a man is in a relationship with a woman for years and years, and yet he won’t marry her.
In his mind, she has a Deal Breaker that isn’t suitable for marriage.
We as women have a tendency not to honor our Deal Breakers when it comes to men. We think with a little work and a lot of love, we can change him and all will be well in our world.
This just isn’t true. Men don’t change unless they want to change.
You might say, “But I love him so much.” If this is the case, and he has one of your Deal Breakers, you aren’t honoring yourself and you will be settling.
So many women choose to settle… They’re afraid no one out there is as good as this man — a man who has one of their Deal Breakers going on in his life.
This is an illusion. Your mind is playing tricks on you. All it does is take you to a place of scarcity when it comes to men. And with our age group leading the pack with the highest divorce rate of any generation these days, there is actually an abundance of men out there for you to date.
All you have to do is go to a mainstream dating website like Match.com and you’ll see thousands of men right in your area looking for a woman just like you, if you’re willing to give him a chance.
Now, let’s take a moment and talk about some common Deal Breakers worth thinking about.
- Pets — If you have a beloved Levi in your life like I do, then you’ll want a man who’ll treasure your puppy or kitten as much as you do.
- Children — With adult children or minors, where will you fit in the family equation? And if they are minor children, are you willing to deal with the teenage years again, especially if your kids are now adults?
- Smokers — I once had a boyfriend who’d take himself outside in all kinds of weather for a smoke. He’d stand outside my garage door and puff away, then he’d come in and wash his face before getting near me. That was love to him.
For me, it became a major DEAL BREAKER for future relationships. Regardless of what he did, he still smelled like smoke and I can’t seem to tolerate that smell.
- Religion — Do you need a man in your life who can share your religious beliefs, going to church or temple with you on a regular basis?
- Alcohol use — Are members of Alcohol Anonymous okay for you to date? Or do you want someone you can share a glass of wine with at the end of the day?
- Differences in sexual behavior — Whether it’s a full-blown Fifty Shades of Grey relationship you desire, or sex once a year on your birthday.
- Money issues and differences — Do you want him to pay for everything? Or can he be financially responsible for just his share?
Take some time to clear your head and really think about the specifics of your Deal Breakers and what each one really means to you. I guarantee whatever Deal Breakers you skip over now … will become major conflicts in your relationship at a later date.
It’s better to know what your Deal Breakers are and whether a man has them before you get too far into a new relationship.
While you’re thinking about it, why don’t you take a few moments and write your own Deal Breaker list. As you get to know a man, refer back to this list to see if he has the qualities it takes to be with you.
Remember, if a healthy long-term relationship is what you really desire in your life, then you’ll want to choose a man who doesn’t have the Deal Breakers you’ve put on your list.
I would love to hear your thoughts on Deal Breakers…