Fighting for the happiness you deserve seems like a constant battle. It’s like life consistently throws curve balls at you no matter what. Once things finally decide to come together. Things find a way to fall part.
Life gives us constant waves of ups and downs. One minute everything is fine. The next, things get shaky. Then they get really good. And shortly after they throw you for a loop all over again.
It makes you wonder how in the world people stay happy. While in fact that is a great question; however the answer is quite eye opening. Although some people seem to be happy the majority of the time, they have times where they go through things just like everyone else.
No one was born super human. And not everyone you see that looks happy, actually is. For instance, I’m a person that smiles literally all the time. I love to make people smile. I love to see people smiling. For me, smiling is part of the energy that I give off to others.
The problem is, just because I’m smiling that doesn’t mean I’m happy. I’ve mastered hiding my emotions through a smile. Sometimes when my mate is upset and yelling at me about something important, I smile—not because it’s funny but because I don’t like conflict.
Sometimes when I’m sad or having a bad day, by myself I might cry tears but when I see someone else I’ll smile because I don’t want to give off any bad vibes. While internalizing their emotions, I don’t want them to feel how I’m feeling.
While having lots of time to spend by myself this year, I’ve learned a few things. I’ve learned that happiness is not about smiling everyday. It’s not about making sure the people around you are happy. Happiness is simply a choice.
It’s choosing to be content with the life you live. Being happy doesn’t mean you won’t have bad days. It’s doesn’t mean you won’t have emotional seasons. It doesn’t mean you don’t get sad or angry. It just means you are okay with how you feel and how you feel is how you feel.
Happiness has to do more with how you manage your emotions rather than what emotions you experience. You can be a happy person and be upset about the Bucks losing or sad that you missed an important deadline that makes you lose out on an opportunity. You can be a happy person and grieve.
It’s all about how you handle it. It’s about learning how to channel your emotions into something positive. Doing something you love to do when you find yourself irritated, knowing how to vent, and perfecting your “let it go” button are traits of a happy person.
Happiness is something that creates more opportunities. It’s an optimistic mindset; an open mind. Happiness doesn’t control the things that happen in your life, it’s solely determined by how you respond to the things that happen in your life.
Life is far from easy and happiness isn’t common. But it is possible. Creating a life that you love is key. Do the work that makes you happy. Fulfill your life’s purpose. Take it easy. Feel how you feel. Love who you are. Cherish the life you live.
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