Relationships are hard work. Well, serious ones, at least. They involve a lot of time, energy, patience, understanding and more. They involve trust, respect, and agreement.
When you first get into a relationship, most times many things are peachy and cream. There’s usually a spark like no other. You could talk to that person all day without feeling bothered or annoyed. You go on dates and butter each other up.
But what happens when the relationship begins to change. Of course on one side, relationships are going to have its share of ups and downs. But on the other, it should never be so much turbulence that it becomes toxic.
Statistics prove that nearly 1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship. That’s nearly 30%. That’s 3 out of 10 young people. Although this age group is typically between the ages of 16 and 24, it’s never been limited too.
I’m no relationship guru but I have a passion for seeing people happy. It seems that a lot of times people get into relationships to fill a void or to avoid loneliness. But in all honesty, that’s not the best reason to get into a relationship.
There’s no relationship completely identical to the next but there are a few things to watch out for when dating. It’s so easy to fall in love with the wrong person and when you do it’s so hard to let go, even when things are toxic.
As hard as it gets to leave, it’s important to know when that time is. There are many signs to watch for but I feel these are a few to start with.
It’s time to leave your relationship if:
There’s ANY Form of Abuse
Abuse comes in many forms; mental, physical, and emotional. If someone is putting their hands on you it’s time to go. If someone consistently plays with your emotions, it’s time to go.
You Can’t Agree on Anything
In a relationship, there’s always going to be times where you guys may not agree. But not agreeing on one thing versus never agreeing on anything is two different things. When you find yourself arguing constantly over practically nothing—or nothing important, it’s time to go.
There’s No Trust/Honesty
Trust and honesty go hand and hand. In fact, these two characteristics are essential for a great relationship. If you don’t trust your mate, you’re going to drive yourself crazy. Both parties being honest and open is necessary for growth.
Dedication
Being dedicated means to not give up. However, if you find yourself more dedicated than the other party, it’s time to go! Both parties should be equally into the other. If you’re not getting the dedication you need let it go.
Though there are many signs to look for, these can help you begin to assess the relationship. Assess the culture of the relationship. Pay attention and act accordingly. As tough as it may be to leave, understand that when it’s time to go, IT’S TIME TO GO!
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