Kelsey Borresen -Huff Post Women
These days, everyone’s to-do list is a mile long. Trying to squeeze sex into an already tight schedule seems next-to-impossible sometimes.
But for married couples who get it on regularly, the payoff can be substantial. We recently asked a group of sexperts to tell us the benefits of having sex with your spouse on a near-daily basis. Read what they had to say below:
1. It sparks your bedroom creativity.
“Having sex every day can get you and your partner out of whatever sexual rut or routine you may have fallen into, and can spark more experimentation as well as more direct conversations about what works and what doesn’t,” psychologist and dating coach Samantha Rodman told The Huffington Post. “After all, you’re not going to want to do the exact same thing seven nights a week.”
2. It’s a way for you to connect — just the two of you.
“As our lives become increasingly busy (kids! career! Netflix binges!), it has become vital that my husband and I find ways to commune with one another,” marriage blogger Meg Conley said. “There are many ways to do this — reading together, holding hands on walks, date nights, intellectually stimulating conversations. I do have to say, though, there is something special, electric — transcendent even! — about the time we set aside for physical intimacy. It recharges us individually, and as a couple, in a way that no amount of reading Faulkner aloud to each other ever has.”
3. It’s a reminder that you’re lovers first. Everything else is secondary.
“Having a daily ritual of erotic connection — whether it be making out, telling each other your fantasies or having sex — will keep your life more fun and playful,” sex expert Danielle Harel told HuffPost. “It also creates a sense that you are adults on the same team as opposed to just being parents or business people or all of the other identities that can take over sometimes.”
4. It can reinvigorate your marriage.
“You might be afraid that a regular, daily date for sex will mean that your love life isn’t spontaneous, or that it will lose its romantic edge,” Tammy Nelson, sex therapist and the author of Getting the Sex You Want, said. “On the contrary, daily sex can actually create more romance in your relationship. When you show up for one another every night, even when you don’t feel like it, when you are tired or there is something great on TV, it shows your partner that you are committed to your relationship and to your intimate life together.”
5. Orgasms. Need we say more?
“Sign me up for that every day,” Conley said.
6. It gives you something to look forward to after a long day.
“Sex can become a respite from the demands of work, kids and life in general,” Rodman told HuffPost. “If you know you’re going to have sex every day, you can look forward to it as a time when you know you can reconnect with your partner without anything else around to distract you.”
7. And remember — there are lots of ways to get your freak on.
“Making love as a daily ritual is a daily affirmation of your unique bond and ongoing romance,” professor of sociology and certified sexologist Pepper Schwartz said. “It doesn’t have to be full-blown, soup-to-nuts sex — kissing more than just hello or goodbye, or giving each other a sensual massage or teasing each other before you turn off the lights or while you are cleaning up for the night, fills each each day with pleasure and intimate connection. ”
8. It’s an easy way to inject some fun back into your life.
“I spend a lot of time doing the things I have to do — appointments, deadlines, chores, grocery shopping with angry toddlers,” Conley said. “Sex with my husband is something I GET to do. With the person I love most. Who loves me up ten pounds, down ten pounds, or whatever other ridiculous thing my crazy insecurities are messaging me about at any given time.”
9. Variety is the spice of life.
“There are different types of sex: emotional sex that is lovemaking, sex as a form of stress relief, sex that’s all about fantasy and creativity and sex that appeals to different sensual pathways like sight, sound, touch, taste and smell,” sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner said. “Like the food pyramid, indulge in all of these ‘sex groups’ to have a nutritionally balanced sex life.”
10. That sex-induced brain chemistry is some powerful stuff.
“When we have sex with our partner we are releasing chemicals in our bodies that make us feel good like dopamine, testosterone, oxytocin and endorphins,” Nelson told HuffPost. “When they are released, a sense of well-being and even euphoria are created.”