Dating seems like it’s by far one of the hardest things to do nowadays. I mean it’s like, looking at couples from back in the day, people stayed together forever, literally. But as time progressed, it seems divorce rates did as well.
It seems like dating has become so much harder since technology stepped up to the plate. It’s tough because some people allow their loneliness to commit to unfitting relationships for many reasons.
Sometimes people want to date because it looks cool. Some date because they love love. Either way, dating doesn’t seem like the simplest thing to do nowadays.
I looked up some tips on how to get back in the dating world and I found these. According to insider.com, these are some good tips to start with when getting back dating.
- Close the previous chapter.
Well if this isn’t the truth I don’t know what is. This is an essential step when looking to date. Make sure the old door is completely closed. I’ve personally been a victim of wanting to stay friends after things didn’t work out. Let me tell you, it’s a no go! Not just because you’re subconsciously still choosing to hold on to that person, but also because who wants to date someone that’s cool with or actively kicking it with their Ex? … let it go!
- Tap back into what you love to do.
This is huge. You have to get back to you. Get back in your groove. Take care of yourself. Start a new hobby. Join a class. Keep that mind busy and focused on you.
- Focus on self-love.
Be intentional about loving you. Date yourself; I’m talking about dinner, movie, maybe even skating. Get dressed really pretty, throw on some perfume, and take yourself out. It’s all about you babe.
- Get clarity on your needs.
Know what you need and want, big picture and small. You have to know what you want so that you can decipher between who and what’s for you and who’s not.
- Take your time.
Leaving relationships is never an easy task. But now that you left, that doesn’t mean it’s time to dive right back in. No. Give yourself some time. Use this time to breathe. Pat yourself on the back for walking away but also take some time to reflect and process. Take time to understand how you feel. Take some time to really assess the relationship and both parties involved. Get to learn you again before getting back on the market.
These are some great things to consider before dating. But after you’ve done all this, go for it. Don’t let one person make you feel like hope is lost. Don’t allow one person’s mistake make you feel like there’s no one out there for you. Sometimes those bad relationships help you become a better person for the one that’s going to walk in your life and make everything worth it.
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